When the faith that once held you together no longer does, what comes next?
Sometimes leaving all you have known can feel like gaining freedom and losing your foundation all at once—especially in marriage.
Many Post-Mormon couples find themselves navigating not just a spiritual transition, but a relationship one. When both partners step away from the LDS Church (or another high-demand faith), the shared structure that once shaped your identity, values, and future can suddenly feel missing.
You might be wondering:
- Did we really choose each other, or were we following a path we were taught to take?
- Who am I, and who are we to each other?
- Can we stay connected without the roles and rules we used to rely on?
These are normal - and deeply human - questions. Marriage therapy for ex-mormons offers a place to explore them together.
What post-mormon couples often face...
After leaving Mormonism, it’s not uncommon for couples to:
- Struggle with shifting gender roles and relationship dynamics
- Experience resentment, grief, or frustration about how the marriage began, especially if you were following the path you were taught and got married young before you really knew each other - or yourselves
- Wonder if you really know each other
- Have challenges working through conflict and difficult emotions like anger with each other
- Explore new values, boundaries, or ways of being that create friction or uncertainty
- Have differing paces and concerns for trying out new things that once may have been forbidden in the religion that also now create friction between you
- Revisit shame or guilt that leaks into intimacy or emotional safety
- Feel emotionally distant or confused about how to relate to each other
Even if your faith crisis was shared, your emotional responses, pace, and needs may differ.
How therapy can help post-Mormon marriages thrive..
Marriage therapy can give you tools and space to:
- Rebuild emotional connection without relying on rigid gender roles or spiritual authority
- Learn how to communicate openly and vulnerably, especially about sensitive topics like sex, parenting, and identity
- Work through old shame and perfectionism that may still live in the relationship
- Rediscover shared values and create a new vision for your life together
- Support each other while trying new things, setting new boundaries, and embracing more autonomy
- Make intentional choices about who you are as individuals and as a couple, outside of Mormonism
Together, we’ll focus on creating emotional safety, fostering mutual understanding, and honoring your evolving identities.
What to expect from Post-Mormon marriage therapy?
As a therapist who specializes in working with faith transitions and ex-Mormon relationships, I approach therapy through the lens of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This evidence-based method focuses on helping couples identify the emotional patterns that keep them stuck, and create new experiences of connection, safety, and support.
You can expect:
- A compassionate, non-judgmental space to explore your relationship
- Guided conversations that lead to vulnerability, intimacy, and emotional needs at your pace
- Tools to help repair trust, navigate conflict, and increase connection
- Support for rediscovering who you are - both individually and as partners
This work isn’t about fixing what’s broken—it’s about getting curious about what’s possible when you have space to be honest, brave, and connected with one another.
